"Knowing" in Three Parts

The wind howls, the rain pounds against the windows, tree branches slap wildly, tornado warnings beep on my phone, the sun bursts through, and the rain returns in torrents.  This April day's weather screams of uncertainty and change - a metaphor for a planet in the throes of Covid19. With more questions than answers, I offer thoughts on my small world during a pandemic, each through a lens of "knowing" for yesterday/today/tomorrow.

What I thought I knew:

1. The day of the week and the calendar date

2. A love for reading books

3. A love for cooking

4. How to eyeball what six feet apart looks like on local walking trails and maintain it
5. Medical professionals perform jobs that include many stomach churning parts 
6. My failings
7. Creating my food shopping list in the order of the store layout
8. The cost of offering a smile - nothing

9. Pets are comfort
10.We have a childish, self-absorbed, career con-artist president who couldn't lead a horse to water
11. Face Time
12. A disinterest in making sour dough bread
13. Bleeding heart plants in my garden bloom in early May 
14. The definition of an Optimist: someone who sees the bright side and that things will work out
15. Teachers create worlds for all types of learners every day in the classroom
16. Standing shoulder to shoulder at concert venues brings the communal music experience to its fullest
17. Boxes of memorabilia in the attic and various closets bring comfort.
18. Meeting friends at a bar or restaurant is casual and easy
19. "Don't it always seem to go that you don't know what you've got 'til it's gone"

What I now know:

1. Morning, Afternoon and Evening

2. A pandemic finds me struggling to read books

3. I still love to cook

4. Most fellow walkers who travel two, three, and four abreast on local trails reliably do not eyeball what six feet apart looks like nor do they seek it
5. Medical professionals have bravery that exceeds my imaginings
6. There are more than I thought
7. Entering the store from a different doorway and beginning to shop on the opposite end of the store using one way aisles tosses me into the "away team" category
8. A smile has immeasurable value
9. I regret not having a pet
10. Ditto, only worse as he uses daily briefings during a pandemic for personal ego rallies
11. Zoom
12. I am still not interested in making sour dough bread
13. Bleeding heart plants in my garden bloom in early April 
14. An Apocaloptimist: someone who knows it's all going to s*%t but still thinks things will turn out okay (credit to @mesa.fama)
15. Teachers can create these worlds virtually in the span of mere days
16. How did we ever stand shoulder to shoulder in crowds for anything?
17. Boxes of memorabilia in my home attic and various closets take up a lot of emotional and physical space
18. Meeting friends at a bar, restaurant, or anywhere should NEVER be taken for granted
19. Joni Mitchell is right

What I hope to know:

1. To trust my calendar

2. How to find my way back to reading books

3. To rely less on recipes and more intuition when I cook

4. Patience with myself and others in the social distancing world
5. People will continue to train to be and choose to work as medical professionals
6. Improvement and acceptance are always possible
7. Even infinitesimal change - such as feeling like the away team -  is growth
8. A smile translates well through crinkly eyes while wearing a homemade personal protection mask
9. Pet memes and photos still bring comfort
10. A November change in presidency
11. Up close and personal conversation minus a computer/phone/any device
12. Appreciation for all sour dough bread bakers (especially you hardy first timers!) 
13. Electing leaders who give science its due re: climate change and other crises
14. More new words to describe this current world
15. Teachers will forever be held and paid as high value workers
16. Our gatherings will once again be full, robust, safe
17. An appreciation for the past with fewer memory boxes
18. Meeting friends anywhere casually and easily
19. Every darn day - good or bad - is the gift

Peace, safety, good health to all. 

Two Weddings and a Funeral

The first wedding was in early March - when we were moving freely about the land, yet the yellow caution flags were beginning to wave.

The couple moved ahead with their original plans and we found ourselves in place at the wedding venue at the appointed time.  All the elements one would expect at a wedding were also in place creating a easy, albeit tenuous, sensory backdrop:  little flower girls swooshing about in layered, cream colored dresses, sweet scents from floral bouquets, burbling water cascading over a decorative fountain's edge, the rapid, soft click, click, click of the photographer's camera.

The fresh feel of approaching Spring filled the plant dense venue.  Missing were the usual hugs, kisses, and handshakes that I, as a wedding officiant, would normally share with the couple and their folks. At that point, physical touch was a no-no but "social distancing" wasn't in our word bank yet.  

The ceremony included a reflection on how luck played a significant role in this couple finding and dating each other and eventually arriving at marriage.  Reading these sentiments written months before felt a little unbalanced given how this earlier, carefree certainty seemed blissfully naive in a COVID-19 world.

Yet, the moment contained all the precious joy and, a bit of relief, as two lovers made their marriage promises to each other as planned.  

In the hours and days that followed, it was becoming all too clear that this wedding ceremony would be my last for a while as a Journeys of the Heart officiant.

Days after the wedding, I found myself and my 92 year-old dad in a hospital emergency room watching my 93 year-old mother's health collapsing as we sat vigil by her side.  Hours later, she died.  

The mental ping pong of accepting the fact that her body could fight no more, comforting my dad's (and my own) fear and grief, communicating with siblings and children near and far, digesting how we arrived at this crushing moment, making mental calculations about the many surfaces we were touching in an ER environment, and perpetually hand sanitizing, proved to be a tsunami of circumstances teetering on unbearable. 

Marvel Comics has it all wrong with their hyperbolic imaginings of who is a superhero; the health care professionals in service to all three of us that evening earned that top billing then and every single day before and after.  

When we mortals are falling apart under the weight of an emotional onslaught such as a loved one dying, the EMTs, ER clerks, nurses, and docs are the voices of calm, reason, rational thought, and compassion. Layer on the current pandemic, the woeful lack of needed supplies, and a host of other larger than life scenarios and it becomes incomprehensible how they rise up and do this work every day.

They are human marvels. 

A few days later a second wedding came to the fore.

photo credit: Christian Nachtrieb

My daughter Alison's college roommate had a late April wedding planned in upstate New York. Alison is one of two maids of honor. The couple, Bridget and John, live in Boston and, like so many other engaged couples, they postponed the big celebration and took matters into their own hands as a pandemic encroached on normal life.  

On a clear, bright, breezy early spring afternoon, the couple decided to be wed, at a city park, with a couple of local friends surrounding them in a social distancing tableau. Out of town family and other close friends watched via Instagram Live. 

Dressed in wedding finery, with flutes of prosecco in hand, those family and friends  dialed in from across the miles and oceans to the precious, homemade moment. Bridget's mom even made a tiered wedding cake to celebrate, albeit from PA.  

The sweetness that emerged from this pared down, full-hearted ceremony was yet another reminder of how the power of love and the capacity for joy conquers.   

Days later, my mom's funeral took place.  It was a simple, private Mass arranged for my immediate family as the limitations on churches and funeral homes became increasingly stringent. (Thankfully Mass was live streamed so family and friends out of town and down the street could watch.) 

And on another warm, sunny, springtime day we closed the door to outside world issues and focused on the woman who gave our lucky family her finest work as mother, wife, grandmother, and great-grandmother.  We gave Love its due because it is our fuel and was never to be denied.   

We humans have an incredible capacity to hold love, sorrow, fear, gratitude, jealousy, compassion, wonder, grief simultaneously. It isn't the easiest juggling act but it is essential.   As long as we can keep some balance, remembering to switch off our rudder control from one powerful emotion to another, we have a shot at sanity.  And, a little peace. 

This moment is the one we have.  The only thing certain about the ones to follow is that they are unknown.   

What a world. 

Best Advice?

What's the best advice? Probably to not give advice but, predictably,  I often do not take my own medicine.  It's my "sideline sage" conundrum and it takes grit-like self-control to listen without trying to tell someone how to fix their problem.  I've slowly learned to first reach for empathy but it can be a challenge. 

There are easy-to-grab pieces of advice that straddle the helpful/not helpful line.
On the practical side, I believe these nuggets hold up:

~Don't drink and drive.   ~Buy low; sell high.  ~Neither a borrower nor a lender be
~When in doubt, out       ~Know thyself          ~You can't always get what you want

In contrast, these don't:

~Everything happens for a reason     ~What doesn't kill you makes you stronger
~It could be worse   ~Time heals all wounds   ~Just be strong 
~God (or some deity) doesn't send you what you can't handle

I am more intrigued by the question of why do we give advice?  What's in it for the advice giver? Or for the receiver?  Is it the desire to help or to inject a tried and true fix? Are we careful/thoughtful enough to sense if advice is not what the situation needs? And on the receiving end, what are we really seeking?

The first rule of advice is that when someone brings us a problem, they may just want to hear themselves describe it aloud.  Perhaps they are looking for a friendly listener. However,   offering a fix is usually a first response, predictably employed by men.  I believe instead of defaulting to empathy, men instinctively go to the toolbox.  Why else would someone be sharing a problem with them? The logic is simple: problems need answers.

I have to admit, this has been part of my nature as well because: 
a) I want to help; 
b) I really think my advice fits as an answer to the problem; 
c) It's a comfort to feel I have the ingredients to create a nourishing answer that will fortify and be digestible.  

Oh, the sweet arrogance of it all.

Parents suffer this character flaw, often with good intent, because we frequently see ourselves as the answer holders - advice givers - for our kids.  It can be an act of love but it is so often encased in control.  Glennon Doyle (warrior, author, humorist, life guide) recently noted in one of her talks that she reluctantly has come to learn this from her  former relationships, "I thought I had very good ideas about how people should behave" and would advise them as such, all in the name of love.  

What she has since realized is that control is the opposite of love. In her words, "Love implies trust.  We only control things or people we don't trust fully."  Hmmm. I gave this thought a moment to crystallize, took a quick cerebral inventory, and whispered to myself, "This could be true." For now, I am mentally road testing her premise. 

Advice columnists have had the best jobs because they are paid to advise. Reading their meanderings is a sort of sidelong glance into other people's problems. Who doesn't enjoy reading a good old fashioned question/answer volley with nothing to lose?

While notable past newspaper columnists/advice givers - Dear Abby, Ann Landers, and Erma Bombeck - enjoyed immense popularity in the print world heydays, my favorite modern-day prescriptive provider has been author, Cheryl Strayed. Strayed cut her advice teeth as "Dear Sugar" on the writer focused Rumpus website in 2010.  

Selected letters and replies were compiled from her column in 2012 to create her book (and an eventual stage adaptation) tiny, beautiful things. My dog-eared copy of her book looks like a crazy first try at an origami project.  So much of what she writes resonates.  She shares chunks of herself in service to the problem presented.  This speaks to the irresistible power of her empathy while she holds the pain of her letter writers. 

This winter, my daughter and I saw the stage presentation of tiny, beautiful things. Upon arriving home, I reached for my book and thumbed through favorite parts gladly slipping into the comforting rabbit hole of Strayed's wisdom and love.  She lets the writer/reader know I see you; I hear you.  She keeps us whole while nudging us to consider what she offers.   
                               

My mental image of her is that of a virtual disaster aid volunteer; before she types one word in reply, she is draping our weary shoulders with a protective blanket while handing us something warm to sip. Then we take teensy steps from our emotional fortress and head across the tenuous bridge she builds to consider what she has to say.  One thing is certain:  we are intact all along the way.

Almost a year ago I came across a NY Times article asking readers to share the best advice they've received. Readers submitted their "best of" offerings and the author categorized them: Life Advice; Parenting Guidance; Work Life; Lightening Round.  My favorite of the bunch?  Take a breath. The article sat all those months in an "ideas" folder waiting for my consideration. No great light bulb moment was born from that idle time but little glimmers emerged.  

I decided to play along and share what I've read/been told: 

• Best life advice?  Feel the fear and do it anyway.  
• Parenting Guidance?  Your child will find who and what they are looking for.  Pay more attention to who your child is. 
• Work Life? Try something new every day.
• Lightening Round?  What we know matters but who we are matters more. (thank you Brene Brown)

When I sometimes hear a friend say, "I remember some advice you gave me when you said..." I cringe the cringiest cringe.

And then I take a breath. 

Dear Reader: What advice have you given? Received? Was any of it of value?  Why? Why not?

                                ~~~~~~~~~~~~

Link to a "10 best Sugar Columns" from tiny, beautiful things: 

https://www.vulture.com/2014/12/10-best-dear-sugar-columns-cheryl-strayed-wild.html

Link to NYTimes article asking readers to share the best advice they've received:   https://www.nytimes.com/2019/04/30/smarter-living/best-advice-youve-ever-received.html?smid=fb-nytimes&smtyp=cur&fbclid=IwAR0Hn610_LDJ9Jk9GP_zqdg676Yymk8d0fXALQI2y9-tge3ZxaKWRYEJo1Y

Things I Learned in 2019

~Witnessing parents navigate the death of their child stills me.  2019 contained too much loss.

~Guiding couples on their wedding day as they make their sweet marriage promises is an honor like no other.

~ One-year-old flower girls understand their power.

~I am a ripe candidate for becoming a snowbird. 

~Standing in my backyard at dawn or dusk to watch the International Space Station flying  248 miles above leaves me awestruck.

~Text alerts stating when this orbital wonder will happen make me gleeful. (Thanks Starman!)   https://spotthestation.nasa.gov/signup.cfm

~Divided: we struggle.  Together: we conquer.

~When a 2 year-old wants to stand on the front lawn to touch the reflection of twinkling lights on Christmas Eve, I remember how wonder feels. 

~Living in a world where Joni Mitchell is still among us is enough.

~Listening to Brandi Carlile cover Joni Mitchell is the next best thing.

~Home ownership is tiresome.  

~My desire to experience Christmas elsewhere in the world is strong - maybe in 2020.

~Securing Newport Folk Festival tickets eight months in advance delights and sustains me.  

~Sharing this with my eldest, music-loving daughter boosts the delight factor by 100. 

~South Korea is on my daily radar while my youngest, adventure-seeking daughter follows the experiential narrative of her life while teaching there.

~Coldplay's latest offering- Everyday Life - is not what I expected. I am smitten.

~Lizzo is a juicy wonder. "If you feel like a girl, then you real like a girl, do your thing, run the whole damn world."

~The Daily (NYTimes) podcast is platinum-level news reporting. We must support the fourth estate (not state television) regardless of/and because of the colossal ignorance that wants to bury it.

~My 2-year-old grand nephew and 6-month-old grand-niece run the whole show.  Our family's role is strictly that of infatuated support staff. 

~The Met is a gorgeous Philly venue.      
                                                                           
~Parking my car for free near a South Philly subway stop and taking the subway to the Met is the best concert parking tip of the year. (Thanks Concert Guru!)

~Having to lock your phone away during a performance is l-i-b-e-r-a-t-i-n-g!

~Author and activist Glennon Doyle lives her truth as a Love Warrior.  She dazzled us at the Keswick Theater this summer. 

~She also has some amazing sports aptitude as evidenced in this tutorial given on the first day of the 2019 Women's World Cup.  (This video brings me joy.  Every. Single. Time. "Offside is a force that is beyond human understanding. Offside is a matter of spiritual surrender." )

Thank you, dear Reader, for taking time to read these meanderings. Peace in 2020. 
As we step into another decade, time, as usual, has the last word:

"Time is the substance I am made of.
 Time is a river which sweeps me along, but I am the river; 
it is a tiger which destroys me, but I am the tiger; 
it is a fire which consumes me, but I am the fire” 
Jorge Louis Borges, Labyrinths: Selected Stories & Other Writings

Our Bodies Ourselves

In 1974, the book Our Bodies Ourselves by the Boston Women's Health Book Collective rocked my parochial world.  

It was the Fall of my college freshman year and Ellen, a fellow coed (with whom I am still friends) had a copy on her book shelf.  Just as we would laze around dorm rooms analyzing album covers while listening to music, my fellow dorm mates and I would flip through Our Bodies Ourselves with equal intensity, ingesting every morsel.  

Written in plain detail with line drawings illustrations and some photos, it described a woman's anatomy, sexuality, birth control, being lesbian, abortion, pregnancy, miscarriage, and much more with clarity and frankness that rattled my sheltered teenage experience.  The pre-Internet world along with my catholic school education created a moat around knowing myself as sexual being whose body was my own.  Our Bodies Ourselves finally lowered the drawbridge into a wider world celebrating women and sexuality. 

Our Bodies Ourselves was just in its 4th year of printing but it already stood as a significant resource.  

Previously, in the Spring of my senior high school year, a guest speaker addressed my classmates during religion classes. The visitor was a young, married woman who was a school alum.  She must have been in her early to mid-twenties, but to my 17 year-old self, of course she projected as someone much older.

Her presentation's core message was to abstain from sex and "save yourself" for marriage.  I recall her manner as pleasing, earnest.  I also remember feeling separated  from her message since she was married which translated into 'old' which translated into not relatable. 

At the intersection of intention and reality, this chaste effort fell flat.

Earlier that year, a classmate, Maureen, a girl who sat behind me in homeroom for almost four years became pregnant and left school to have her daughter. Maureen was boisterous, joyful, outspoken, a free thinker, and smiled through every day.   

One day she arrived on campus at lunchtime to catch up with a group of us as we sat outside at our usual spot.  Maureen was in her third trimester.  She joked with us like always and the appreciation in being together was mutual.  But her visit was cut short when one of the faculty, having spotted her on campus, abruptly and awkwardly shooed her off telling her she was not permitted on school grounds. 

I recall that dismissive moment so sharply.  This was no stranger.  It was Maureen.  She was our beloved high school friend.  Yet, now she was unwelcome because she was pregnant. She represented the great unclean. She was shamed. 

It's no leap to see the fear her situation gave to school faculty.  Maureen did not 'save herself' for marriage.  She did not represent the only option offered catholic school girls.  Fear drove the shunning.  

Where was love for Maureen? Where was the kindness? Where was the support? 

It infuriated me and scared me.  

I thought about Maureen when the visiting alum spoke to us regarding abstinence.  While this woman promoted one lone path of 'purity,' it seemed so narrow and unfair for the bright light that was Maureen.  I felt conflicted, not about Maureen, but about a philosophy of fear and unreasonable choices.  Maureen, who made a brave, life changing choice became unwelcome to the very school which taught a now skewed value system:  be chaste and, if you 'fail,' be damned. 

Which is why paging through Our Bodies Ourselves months later as a first semester college coed became a sort of protest to small thinking.  It was the first time I understood that I was in charge of my body and desires whether I chose to have sex or not.  I controlled what I did with my body.  I felt celebrated.  I felt empowered. And I had options. Shame had no place in sexuality.  

A couple of years later I ran into Maureen at a local shop.  She had her sweet toddler daughter with her.   I don't remember what we said but I do know what we felt.  We were two young women incredibly happy to see one another.  Maureen's effervescence sparkled as it always had.  A teen pregnancy didn't break her nor did the disrespectful lack of mercy from her religious high school.

Maureen is one of my early heroines.  She navigated hypocritical shame and she decided about her body.  She chose to have her baby at a time when she could have chosen not to have her baby.  The important point, to me, is that she had a choice - her choice! 

I am forever grateful to the women who wrote, published, updated, promoted, supported Our Bodies Ourselves for so many years.  Their clarity helped mold mine. 

I am pro-choice.
My body.  
My choice.  
Mine. 

NOTE: Here is the pdf of the 1970 course booklet "Women & Their Bodies" which became Our Bodies Ourselves.
https://www.ourbodiesourselves.org/cms/assets/uploads/2014/04/Women-and-Their-Bodies-1970.pdf

NOTE: On April 2018, the board, founders and staff of Our Bodies Ourselves came to a decision that Our Bodies Ourselves (OBOS) no longer had the resources to continue paying staff to develop health information and collaborate on translations and adaptations with our global partners. As of October 1, 2018, OBOS transitioned to a volunteer-led 501(c)3 and scaled back OBOS’s core work to two primary activities: advocating for women’s health and social justice and providing limited technical support to OBOS’s global partners.  

Since its inception, OBOS has had a tremendous impact on the lives, health, and human rights of women across the world. https://www.ourbodiesourselves.org/

Anne and Liz: My Mother's Day Guides

Writing about Mother's Day jams up my brain. There are a precious few things I know about being a mother and here they are:

I know I always wanted to have this experience.
I know I was unqualified.
I know the last fact didn't matter.

I am grateful that my 92 year old mom still inhabits our lives and this Earth.  Thank you Mom! 

Writers Anne Lamott and Liz Gilbert both write about mothers and Mother's Day in a way that resonates with me so I happily reprint their well thought out opinions and embrace them as I embraced my children when we lived together and now, as they find their way in the world.   

Oh - and Liz, in her decision to not parent, offers this perfect description of parental commitment. "Having a baby is like getting a tattoo on your face.  You really need to be certain it's what you want before you commit."    

Yep- that covers it.  

From Anne Lamott:

"...Mother’s Day celebrates a huge lie about the value of women: that mothers are superior beings, that they have done more with their lives and chosen a more difficult path. Ha! Every woman’s path is difficult, and many mothers were as equipped to raise children as wire monkey mothers. I say that without judgment: It is, sadly, true. An unhealthy mother’s love is withering.

The illusion is that mothers are automatically happier, more fulfilled and complete. But the craziest, grimmest people this Sunday will be the mothers themselves, stuck herding their own mothers and weeping children and husbands’ mothers into seats at restaurants. These mothers do not want a box of chocolate. These mothers are on a diet.

I hate the way the holiday makes all non-mothers, and the daughters of dead mothers, and the mothers of dead or severely damaged children, feel the deepest kind of grief and failure. The non-mothers must sit in their churches, temples, mosques, recovery rooms and pretend to feel good about the day while they are excluded from a holiday that benefits no one but Hallmark and See’s. 

There is no refuge — not at the horse races, movies, malls, museums. Even the turn-off-your-cellphone announcer is going to open by saying, “Happy Mother’s Day!” You could always hide in a nice seedy bar, I suppose. Or an ER."

From Liz Gilbert:  

"What we, as a culture, expect from our mothers is merely that they not be human. Mothers are meant to be some combination of Mother Mary, Mother Theresa, Superwoman, and Gaia. It’s a merciless standard of perfection. Merciless!

God help your mother, if she ever fell short. God help your mother, if she was exhausted & overwhelmed. God help her if she didn’t understand her kids. God help her if she no gift for raising children. God help her if she had desires and longings. God help her if she was ever terrified, suicidal, hopeless, bored, confused, furious.

God help her if life had disappointed her. God help her if she had an addiction, or a mental illness. God help her if she ever broke down. God help her, if couldn’t control her rage. God help her, because if she fucked up in any way, she will be forever branded: BAD MOTHER. And we will never forgive her for this.

So this is my question: Can we take a break today from judging the mothers, and show them mercy, instead?

This doesn’t mean that what happened to you at the hands of your mother was OK. This doesn’t mean that your pain is not real...it just means that maybe her pain was real, too.

And if you are yourself a mother, and you never stop judging yourself for how you are failing...can you let it go for one day? Just for one day, can you drop the knife that you are holding to your own throat? Mercy. Just for one day. Let us find mercy.

Mercy on you.
Mercy on everyone.
Mercy on the mothers."

Julia 2012 ~ 2019

She is forever six and a half years old. 

She does not suffer fools.

She loves red grapes, colorful sweet pepper slices, mini Babybel cheese rounds, and key lime yogurt for lunch.

She has a weak spot for Reese's peanut butter cups (and most chocolate confections.)

She calls out adults on our obvious nonsense.

She is a solid friend who's in high demand among her peers. 

She sings and dances to Katy Perry's song, Roar.

She is a lioness in a cub's body. 

She asked Santa for 100 boxes of Nilla Wafers.

She giggled seeing the over-sized red sack containing 100+ Nilla Wafer boxes on Christmas morning. 

She makes the magic.

She knows her own mind.

She embodies Tom Petty's lyric:  I won't back down.

She chooses turquoise as her favorite color.

She loves to complete every line of the "See Ya Later Alligator" poem from memory. 

She invents new lines to this sweet rhyme.  She knows they work.

She corrects me EVERY SINGLE TIME I screw up the poem's order. 

She is genuine, as are most six year-olds. 

She loves to dance.

She says she can belly dance, Irish step dance, as well as dance hula. 

She immediately demonstrates each dance to prove it.

She is a unicorn devotee.

She shares the same birthday as my 27 year-old daughter.

She asks, "What's the name of your daughter who has my birthday?"

She has perfected the pouty face and weaponizes it expertly.

She dressed as Wonder Woman for Halloween.  

She is, indeed, a wonder.

She firmly rejects my usual greeting of "Hi Toots!" with,  "I am NOT a Tootsie Roll!" 

She often points her tiny index finger as she admonishes me.

She sometimes includes a foot stomp, yet, she indulges me each time.

She giggles with a semi-deep timbre. 

She fiercely loves her older brother.

She teases her older brother with equal ferocity. 

She is masterful in her role as younger sibling. 

She is a beach bum.

She loves a good hot tub soak.

She adores her mommy and daddy and extended family.

She sparkles.

She is so much more than these few cursory descriptors.

She has been dealt the cruelest of hands. 

She has left us much too soon.  

Dear Reader: Help honor our little friend, Julia, and the too many youngsters like her who have been taken from their loved ones by DIPG and similar childhood central nervous system cancers. 

Childhood cancer research receives only 4 percent of all federal government cancer research funding - 4 percent!!  Help us defeat this beast so no other youngsters and their loved ones suffer.   

Please click on the link below to donate to The Cure Starts Now. 

Then go hug the little folks in your life. Thank you. 

Donation link:  https://thecurestartsnow.org/donate/general-donation/

Heroes link: https://thecurestartsnow.org/heroes/view-heroes/julia-bitto/